October 2016 – The Mindful Manager

Knowing My Weakness is My Strength

October 18, 2016 The Mindful Manager Comments 0 Comment

“You kinda ran over Joe,” one of my managers’ told me. I thanked the manager for sharing this with me then found Joe and asked him to come to my office. “Joe, I didn’t mean to dismiss your idea. I was just eager to get going on this project. Why don’t you go over your idea with me now?”

That might sound like an easy transaction between Joe and I but it was a hard lesson for me to learn. What lesson you may be asking? To know when I have turned someone into roadkill.

You see, when I am in driver mode, I push hard towards a goal, often not asking for everyone’s input, or even hearing when others are suggesting changes. It’s not that I don’t want their input, I do. I really, really do. But if the input isn’t coming in fast and furious within the same mental context I am in, I miss the social cues of someone wanting to add or provide input. And that’s when they become roadkill – run over by the driver.

No one likes to be roadkill.

I know this is a weakness of mine. Somehow, I need to counter it. Since I don’t always know when I’m disregarding someone’s input I ask my staff for help. I let them know it’s ok for them to say, “You ran over Joe.”

How do I make it ok for them to say this to me? I never, EVER get angry at them for telling me. I might heave a huge sigh inside myself or get frustrated but I never get angry at them. Instead, I thank the person and then follow up with the road kill to do what I can to recover the situation.

Learning about my weaknesses isn’t a fun activity but it is necessary. It has a huge influence on whom I hire because I want people on my staff that can counter my weaknesses and help me turn them into strengths.

The plus side? Having folks help me to do this avoids people with tire tracks on their backs littering the hallways at work.

Don’t come to me with problems; Come to me with answers!

October 11, 2016 The Mindful Manager

Early in my career, I walked into my manager’s office and preceded to tell him how the approach we were taking for a software problem was the wrong one. I elaborated on how wrong it was – talking for almost 10 minutes, I laid out all my reasons.

Rich sat quietly and listened. I finally completed my analysis of why the solution was wrong and looked at him expectantly.

He said, “What do you suggest we do?”

I hadn’t thought about that. I was too busy thinking of how wrong the solution was, so I had to say, “I don’t know.”

He very evenly replied, “Don’t you ever come to me with a problem without a solution. Come back when you have a solution.”

Don’t just point out problems.

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It was like a bucket of cold water hit me in the face. I slunk out of his office and back to my desk and when I was done feeling like a complete idiot, I began thinking about alternative options. Then I took some of my ideas to the lead engineer on the team and we sat around brainstorming and discussing options and alternatives. We worked on it until we came up with a better solution that we both felt good about. Then we took that idea back to Rich and had a much better conversation.

Thankfully, this happened early on in my career because it was the best thing any manager has ever said to me. Since that time many years ago, I do my best to never present my boss problems without solutions.

After all, it’s not my manager’s job to solve all of the problems, now is it? That’s why they have me.

Respect: A Classic

October 5, 2016 The Mindful Manager

The queen of soul, Aretha Franklin, wasn’t singing about managers in her song Respect. But the lyrics, “You need me and I need you,” can clearly be applied to management. How so you ask?

Managers need their employees.

We need our employees to do their jobs and to be innovative and motivated. The employees need to be motivated and that’s where the employees need the manager. Managers need to motivate their employees.

Respect works in motivating employees. I respect my employees, and I trust that they are excellent at their work and will produce superior results. Because my employees know this, they strive to do a great job and be innovative, often motivated to kick ass and take names.

So try a little respect.